Choosing a Marriage Partner

When Christians are seeking a partner in marriage, it is essential for them to seek the mind and will of God.
There can be no better counsel than what is found in the Word of God. This is where the right guide-lines for our direction can be found.

I got an email asking about praying for a life parter. I think this is not only WONDERFUL it should be imperative!  The email asked: "Is it okay to ask God to send me a special companion to share my life? And how will I know that God has sent this person?"

Yes it is OK and God WANTS us to seek him for big decisions and small decisions! You can ask God for every desire of your heart as long as it is in harmony with his will. He hears all sincere prayers and answers them—not always in the way we want them to be answered, but always in the way that is best for us.

However, to be attracted to and find a healthy, mature adult we need to be a healthy mature adult our self. So the key is learning to pray the right prayer; rather than asking God to send you or lead you to the right partner, you need to ask God first and foremost to help you become the right partner.

So the important way to pray is to ask God to help you grow in maturity and that he will then lead you to a healthy, mature person. Furthermore, to grow in maturity takes strong commitment and hard work on our part. There's no such thing as instant maturity.

To the second part of the question-- "how will I know that God has sent this person?"

I believe that God is not a God of confusion! First, realize that the choice is yours. God will give you wisdom and direction if you truly want it, but he won't make your choices for you. That's your responsibility because God isn't codependent. And how will you know this person and you are right or best for each other? To discover this I urge couples to seek not only God's direction in prayer, but also wise competent Christian counseling where, besides intense counseling, both partners are given psychological tests before they ever say, "I do." This is using your head as well as your heart in one of life's most important and critical decisions.


What are your thoughts?